Happy Friday!
Today's guest post about bravery is from one of the most quirky, creative, whip-smart, kick-ass ladies I have ever had the pleasure of knowing. She's a dear friend and a former colleague, and her act of bravery - moving to Nashville, TN to play music - is quite inspiring. Enjoy!
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I'm
pretty sure I have more than one cavity.
I haven't had my teeth cleaned in two years, nor been to the doctor, and
I've been paying a ridiculous amount for my monthly allergy medicine due to my
crappy insurance.
These are the jobs
I've had in the past two years: barista, nanny, warehouse worker, book lister,
long-term substitute, short-term substitute, teaching fellow, farm worker,
children's farm curriculum coordinator, and finally legitimate, private school
teacher.
Why am I starting out this
essay about bravery with these unsavory details? Because even in spite of this craziness, it
has been totally worth it to make the very small geographical change that I
did, if for no reason except that I might never wake up at 40 thinking I never
really gave things a shot.
My name
is Sarah Carter, and Kelly and I taught together for 3 years. Without her encouragement I probably wouldn't
still be a teacher, or have moved to Nashville, or tried to go for whatever it
is I'm going for (which seems to change daily).
Knowing this, the move didn't really seem like bravery, but more like
divine intervention or a last resort.
After 3
years teaching in Norfolk, I was trying to figure out why I was unhappy,
blaming it on my unfulfilled desire to study writing. After one frank conversation with Kelly, she
helped me put my whole life in perspective:
"Do
you really want to do that?" she asked.
"You
don't wanna do that. Go to Nashville and
be a waitress and play music."
So that's
what I did.
{Sarah Carter}
I didn't
really come to Nashville thinking I would "make it," but wanting to
play more music. The way this happened
was I got so tweaked out about how incredible all the musicians I know here
are, so I quit playing shows for a bit.
The only thing I played was gospel music at a nursing home.
Cowardice? Maybe.
But it did help me answer why I love to play music (again).
Singing
music makes people strong. Hearing music
soothes people's nerves. This helped
give nursing home residents and me a purpose.
I also
got weekly hugs, and learned that if someone is wheeling in to pinch you in a
blaze of dementia, you can slide out your foot or instrument case out to stop
their wheel before they can reach you.
In the
beginning, I wasn’t sure if I would want to be a
full-time musician if I could, but now I know that. I don't love sleeping on the questionably
clean floors of strangers and waiting for an a ailing van to break down in the
middle-of-nowhere Wisconsin like a lot of traveling musicians.
I also know that
some music is for small-scale community building, and that I don't need to feel
guilty if what I want to play falls into that category.
Trying
something new and brave to you doesn't necessarily mean you'll be able to
maintain your goal weight.
Sometimes
you need to drink Coors Lite tallboys while you're waiting around for your
epiphany.
Sometimes
trying something new means you need to realize that there's a whole section of
the population who don't adhere to your general persuasion about the way humans
should smell.
Sometimes
trying something new means you need to get your ass up and iron your shirt for
an interview, or just get your ass up and pray and believe that change is
possible despite your desperate (for the western world) situation.
In
conclusion, do it. Do what you're
wanting to do or waiting for the right time to do. Don't feel bad for being cautious or informed
about your big deal, but be prepared.
You can
live without a lot of the stuff that you think you can't.
Dried
beans are $1.50 and if you add in a can of diced chiles, and one or two sweet
potatoes, you have burrito stuffing for half a week.
In The Artist's Way Julia Cameron talks a
lot about the idea of how by stepping out in an act of creative faith, many
times God will meet you half way as you'll realize everything you need is all
around you, just not looking the way you expected or answering to the name you
call it.